April 12, 2004

Good morning Team,
Here is the “Coaches Challenge” for this week.

“Try not to be defensive”. We often find that this is the common reaction to last week’s challenge of no blame. When we feel we are being blamed, we are often defensive. The reality is that if we are trying to do our best, there is nothing to defend. Try to see how often you defend yourself with others. More importantly, notice how often you defend yourself internally. Thoughts like, “they really don’t understand me, I’m the one that was right, they just don’t get it” are a form of inner defensiveness. Sooner or later, this inner defensiveness gets projected out onto to someone else.

The key to neutralizing our defensiveness is acceptance. At the end of the day, things are as they are and no amount of self-defense will change them.

Have a great week!


Kathleen Doyle
Scout Search & Pathfinders Coaching
2839 NE Hoyt St. Portland, OR 97232
+1 503 296-9249 www.scoutsearch.net

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