I Make Specific Requests
From time to time, I may make a specific requests, like “Will you commit to accomplishing this by the end of the month?”
Your response to this has everything to do with your desire to work on it and if you will make the time to work on it.
This is not about right or wrong, it’s about what works best for you if you’re willing to do the work.
I Give Direct Advice
If I am sure of the situation, and you’re open to it, I may make specific suggestions on how to handle a problem or develop an opportunity. If I am not sure, I’ll say so. Regardless, use the best of what I say and use your own judgment.
I Hear Between the Lines
When I hear a contradiction, either by the tone of your voice, or contradicting words, I’ll ask you about it. We often say one thing and mean another. Often, the truth lies in what we don’t say but are trying to understand.
I will assist you in your inquiry so that we can get closer to what’s really going on and attempt to resolve it. This self-inquiry is not confrontational – it is exploratory.
I Give Homework
I will ask you to work on identifying several goals, actions, or opportunities between our calls so that you come to the call prepared to explore and discuss solutions and plans of action.
I’m a Resource
As your coach, I am a resource and presence for you to use to your best advantage.
I ask that my clients use me as this resource, but not to let themselves get into the position of needing me (or the coaching) as a dependency or fix. Creating healthy professional relationships is a corner stone of my coaching practice so “walking the talk” in this relationship is key to our success in working together.
You Take the Lead
Once we have established your detailed goals, it’s up to you to lead the session. It’s your goal and your vision. It’s your profession. It’s your opportunity. To get what you want out of each session, don’t wait for me to initiate.